Thursday 5 January 2012

A Letter From A Beegists Reader!!! Please Help


Hey guys, a young lady needs your advise....can you help?

Dear Beegists,

I recently viewed your blog and i read this article"7 signs that he's interested in you". I could relate well with the article. I am a a young lady in my mid 20's. Single but in a relationship with a guy who i feel is so crazy in love with me. We have been dating each other for over 3years and hopefully we will get married next year. We love each other and things are going very fine with us.

The problem i am encountering now is that i feel he is getting bored with our current sex routines. The excitement isn't there again when we have sex. Before, we go on for long but now in few minutes we are done. Is there something i am doing wrong or does it mean he is no longer interested me?

Do i need to develop more sex skills or what else do i need to do to claim back his love. I really love this guy & i don't want to loose him. If i don't get it right now he might reconsider marrying me.

Please help. I am very worried.

Thank you
Worried reader.

Any expert in the house?

10 comments:

K.B said...

Did you say you will get married next year and you have been having sex? i think the first thing you need to do is repent genuinely and abstain from premarital sex. Ask God to forgive you your sins and give you a new life... That is the starting point my sister . (Heb 13:4)Sex is only allowed in marriage...

deedee said...

well,,,babe dnt tink anitin is wrong with u.lets see if u guys have it often & the same position, there is tendency for him to get tired.advice for you is that you should try stin new & spice up ur relationship.....muah*

Anonymous said...

thanks alot for your comments...yes we have tried new positions and things to spice it up but it is like we have done almost everything in the book...well, not almost. i just want to try something new, something different.
for the person that says premarital sex is wrong, thanks alot for your advice.
please i would still need more useful tips. waiting!!!!

Kolade said...

sex isnt everything in a relationship. if ur relationship is going down the hill, look for other means of reviving this situation. as for sex tho, u guys can get kinky with it..look at kamasutra positions, have sex in weird places like the back of his car.get creative ladies..but never a BJ. i dont advise women who want to get married and be mothers to their husbands children to give blow jobs. its somewhat demeaning for a lady.

Anonymous said...

eyaahhh...sorry okay. life is hard. find another man. becos u cant keep a man with sex.

pwettiemie07 said...

babe, sex is not everything a relationship needs to grow with....most guyz are lky seasons cuz dey tend to change. if a guy claims to love u and all he eva wants in return from u is sex, den he does not worth u.he would defenately treat u lyk trash with tym........Are u really sure dis guy even loves u....most guyz tend to say things they dont mean.....as a lady, i would advice you to RUN from this guy before he destroys u and run to GOD before its too late and you regret ur actions....

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmm.....

Anonymous said...

Run from the guy ke??? 'Ki lo le to yen?' Babe, I believe you guys shld talk about it. Find out what makes him tick and all...you both need to be open about what you enjoy and don't. That being said, I have to agree that sex outside marriage is really a sin tho'. So, the choice is yours. By the way, congratulations on finding love... *wink*

Anonymous said...

thanks guy!! but i guess i painted the picture that our relationship is sour..it really isnt. we are at the best times in our lives. i am the one that just thinks i need to spice it up. i think the best thing like you said is to stay of sex till we get married. that way, it will be fresh again when we get married and that will be soon..thanks again for your advise!!!

Social Worker. said...

Hi, First and foremost ill advice you change the venue of where you usually have sex be creative use food esp whip cream and strawberries.. Where sexy lingerie be raw when at it. On another part which is vital you need to talk to him I tell people that we are not spirits the only way you can know for sure is by talking openly.. Good luck with that.